Alright queens, let’s get real about texting! 📱 In today’s dating world, your texting game can make or break a potential relationship. After years of navigating the digital dating scene (and yes, making plenty of cringe-worthy mistakes!), I’m sharing my top texting tips that actually work!
The Golden Rules of Texting
First things first, let’s cover the basics that every girl needs to know:
- Keep it balanced (don’t send five texts for their one!)
- Match their energy and response time
- Avoid double (or triple!) texting
- Keep messages clear and concise
- Use emojis sparingly (they’re the seasoning, not the main dish! 😉)
Starting Conversations
Want to slide into their messages? Here’s how to do it right:
- Reference something specific from your last conversation
- Share something interesting that reminded you of them
- Ask open-ended questions
- Send a funny meme (but make sure it matches their humor!)
- Comment on their recent social media post
The Art of Response Time
Ladies, let’s address the elephant in the room – how long should you wait to respond? Here’s the tea:
- If you’re busy, it’s okay to wait!
- Don’t play artificial waiting games
- Match their general response pattern
- Avoid responding instantly every single time
- Remember: consistency is key!
What to Avoid (Like, Seriously!)
Trust me, I’ve learned these the hard way:
- Drunk texting (just don’t!)
- Novel-length messages
- Passive-aggressive responses
- One-word answers (unless you’re trying to end the convo)
- Overusing “lol” or “haha”
- Excessive punctuation marks!!!!!!
- Text bombing when they don’t respond
Keep His Interest
Want to maintain that spark? Try these:
- Use playful banter
- Share snippets of your day
- Ask his opinion on things
- Use voice messages occasionally
- Leave some mystery (don’t share every detail!)
- End conversations on a high note
The Perfect Length
Finding the right message length is crucial:
- Keep initial messages short and sweet
- Match their text length
- Save deeper conversations for in-person
- Break up longer messages into digestible chunks
- Use paragraphs for clarity
Flirting Via Text
Here’s how to keep it cute without being too much:
- Use subtle innuendos
- Share inside jokes
- Give genuine compliments
- Use playful emojis strategically
- Leave them wanting more
Dealing with Dry Responses
When the conversation feels like pulling teeth:
- Ask more engaging questions
- Share something interesting about your day
- Know when to let the conversation end
- Don’t force it – sometimes timing isn’t right
- Move on if it’s consistently one-sided
Emergency Texting Situations
For those “oops” moments:
- Sent to wrong person? Own it with humor
- Autocorrect fail? Laugh it off
- Regrettable text? Don’t over-explain
- Dead conversation? Let it rest
- Awkward moment? Change the subject naturally
Building Connection Through Texts
Make those digital conversations count:
- Show genuine interest in their life
- Remember details they share
- Follow up on previous conversations
- Share your thoughts and feelings appropriately
- Be supportive when they need it
The Good Morning/Good Night Debate
Keep it sweet and strategic:
- Don’t send these every single day
- Mix up your greetings
- Keep it casual in early stages
- Read their enthusiasm level
- Save some greetings for special moments
Red Flags in Texting
Know when to walk away, sis:
- Consistently late responses with no explanation
- Only texting late at night
- Breadcrumbing (minimal effort texts)
- Never initiating conversations
- Disrespectful or demanding messages
Remember queens, texting is just one part of communication! Don’t let it become the primary way you connect with someone special. Use these tips to enhance your connections, not replace real-world interactions.
The Bottom Line
Your texting style should reflect your authentic self while keeping things interesting and engaging. Don’t overthink every message – the right person will appreciate your natural communication style!
Keep it real, keep it fun, and remember – you’re not just texting, you’re building connections! Now go forth and text with confidence, queens! 👑✨